You are hurt and frustrated because you are in an ownership or possessive mindset.

Anything that has the capacity to think and make choices cannot be owned and controlled.

This is your "My Boyfriend, My Girlfriend, My Wife, My Husband" - You own none of these "MY"

Each of these "My" comes with no insurance or guarantee. Your "My..." can leave you anytime.

They are allowed to change their hearts and minds, and there is nothing you can do. Stop trying to control them or how they feel.

If one decides to end the relationship for whatever reason it ok. Again you own no one.

You hear someone say "Motho waka, my person or you are mine or I am yours" -- keep saying such and you will always be friends with hurt.

Just because you love someone, it does not mean you have to be with them.

So you may ask. What is truly mine?

Your dreams, thoughts, goals, peace and how you choose to spend your days are yours and you have total control of such.

This is what you must hold dear to, make sure that you know what is truly yours.

You can't even hold yourself or control your actions but you have the idea of controlling another.

This can be extended to materials.

Your car, phone, house or whatever you are fooled you own can be stolen, burn to the grown, break to never mend.

Check what you possessing over and let go. You own nothing. The sooner you let go the better you acquaint yourself with peace and happiness.

You own only what you can control.